When two people come in to ask for help in their relationship, it is rare that they are not frightened. Needing help for oneself in the privacy of a small room with a psychotherapist is already a complex task .  Looking for help within the shared realm of mutuality between two people is a unique circumstance.  To invite a third to make contact in the place between two where the contact has been fraught with unease, can be like pressing on an unhealed sore. But often the place of hurt is the place of most need and vulnerability. The place that when fulfilled offers incomparable sweetness.