When dependency needs in childhood are denied,
the child is made ashamed of his/her own needs repeatedly…
The rage he/she feels towards the neglectful parents is used to repress the neediness about which now even he/she has grown intolerant.
So the aggressive energies of the psyche are turned back upon the dependent aspects and we have an internal environment where self attack for neediness is a constant occurrence.
*Excerpted and edited for this blog from the inspiring book,
“The Inner World of Trauma,” written by Donald Kalshed.